Dale Carnegie’s top 10 tips for improving your social skills

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Dale Carnegie’s top 10 tips for improving your social skills

Henrik Edberg summarizes some of Dale Carnegie’s best ideas and thoughts on communicating with people. Carnegie, of course, is the author of the popular book “How to Win Friends and Influence People”. One of my favorite tips in this article is about Carnegie’s thoughts on saying positive things to other people instead of being negative by complaining, criticizing, and condemning.

3. Three things you are better off avoiding.

“Any fool can criticize, condemn, and complain but it takes character and self control to be understanding and forgiving.”

Now these things may not be easy to avoid all together. Much of our interactions and perhaps even bonds are created and maintained through those three negative C’s. There is a sort of twisted pleasure in criticising, condemning and complaining. It might make you feel more important and like a better person as you see yourself as a victim or as you condemn other people’s behaviour.

But in the end these three C’s are negative and limiting to your life. Bringing up negative stuff and wallowing in it will lower your mood, motivation and general levels of wellbeing. And this can trap you in a negative spiral of complaining, complaining with other complainers and always finding faults in your reality.

You will also be broadcasting and receiving negative emotions. And people in general want to feel good. So this can really put an obstacle in the way for your interactions or relationships.